Five Really Easy Ways that You can Build a Strong Relationship

Scriptures: Use an Inspirational Verse to Remind you that Love is Eternal and to act in a loving emotional way toward your partner. Love Never Fails is a great one but My verses were Ephesians 5:33 & 1 Peter 3:2. These are the verses written into my husband book beside one of my favorite pictures of Allen.

Admire Him

My Husband Book

In the picture, he is dressed in his biker gear and I particularly admire him for how he looks in the photo and also because of what he was preparing to do, go minister with the Christian Motorcyclists Assocaiation. It reminds me of a moment when I respected him, admired him, enjoyed him. Although he is preparing to leave me at the moment the photo was taken, he was being all the things I (in the human sense) adored about him. It reminds me of other moments when I can indeed act out this verse with regards to my husband.

Time: Invest minutes to Earn years. Do something that takes a moment that will build up long term value in the relationship. When Allen left for work every day, I stood and watched him until he was completely out of sight. I watched for him when it was time for him to be home and jumped up to run and greet him when he came home every day. I really did not take it for granted that each moment would not be our last. It became something much more than just a few moments each day. It became a routine he depended on as he realised just how important he was to me. Those few moments every day became a cornerstone that represented loyalty and faithfulness over our years together.

Romance: Be what He saw and See what He can Be. Let yourself Enjoy both Planned and Spontaneous phyisical Pleasure. Share your Vision of your Relationship at Opportune Tender moments but Relish Touching and being Touched. Say Yes even when it is Inconvenient and Surprise yourself with some Exciting memories.

Now: Just like the manna, Today is the only day that this moment can Nourish your relationship. Treat REGRET as a Strength Building exercise instead of Endurance Training. Let it build Muscle in an area that needs improvement instead of spending time with it just to build up your stamina. How can you live in the NOW moment with the lesson it gave you? How will you act NOW differently than then so your relationship can be improved? Never let what you or your partner did in the Past keep you from having the day you want Today.

Grace: Give what you need; compassion, forgiveness, romance, passion. Give what you need to your partner but also Give what you need to yourself. Ask instead of assuming your Significant Other knows what you want. If you need a romantic moment and your partner really just wants to watch television, then spend a little time with your memories of other great moments instead of spending it with bitterness or regret. Instead of nursing a grudge or expanding the gap with indifference or anger, Use the time to rehearse your Victories by going through photos or meditating Successes.

Rehearsing Victories

Rehearsing Victories

[My Husband Book was created Just for these Growth Moments. More on that in another post.]

When your partner does give you what you ask; time, romance, passion: Enjoy it and Encourage it. Give up your preconceived notions of how it should go and make the effort to Just Enjoy what it is.

…and let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband [that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates, and esteems him; and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly]. | …When they observe the pure and modest way in which you conduct yourselves, together with your reverence [for your husband; you are to feel for him all that reverence includes: to respect, defer to, revere him—to honor, esteem, appreciate, prize, and, in the human sense, to adore him, that is, to admire, praise, be devoted to, deeply love, and enjoy your husband]. [Amplified Bible]

Three Pillars: Life, Health, Prosperity.

Life. Health. Prosperity.

Life. Health. Prosperity.

Life. Health. Prosperity.

Agreement is important in the Kingdom. Jesus himself said, ‘That if two of you shall agree on earth as touching any thing that they shall ask, it shall be done for them of my Father which is in heaven.”

When I downloaded the Visalus Compensation Plan Book, I was very glad to find that their three pillars aligned with my goals and the goals for the Moms-Survival-Guide website, too.

LIFE. A community, building quality relationships and creative,
memorable experiences.

FAMILY and FRIENDS are very important to me. As defined in the Visalus pillars, LIFE means a community, building quality relationships and creative, memorable experiences. To me, that sounds exactly like the goal I have for my family and my friends, both personal and professional. Visalus lines up with what I try to share with YOU here.

In our Ashley Family Ministries’ Partnership brochure, created years ago, Allen and I explained our goal:

We believe that by helping strengthen relationships, we can create opportunities to influence, and thereby help spread the Gospel of Salvation. We want to bless you as we combine our resources to help build families and relationships, spread the gospel, and teach the Word of Life.

HEALTH. A platform, combining the right products, programs,
and support for lasting personal transformation.

My family has struggled to survive both physically and financially –due to HEALTH issues this last few years. It has reinforced my already strong desire to ensure that we are eating well, maintaining balance and taking care of ourselves so that we can thrive. Visalus is helping me to meet my weight and fitness goals as well as giving me an opportunity to share that success with others here and on Facebook. Visalus has indeed become a platform for lasting personal transformation.

PROSPERITY. A path, delivering freedom and financial
independence through the value we bring to others, while
doing our part to give back.

The Visalus leadership is taking strong definite steps to develop the Visalus community. They have taken the initiative to bring in experienced professional speakers to help teach success principles to everyone who gets involved. Best selling author and world renowned Leadership Expert John C. Maxwell is working with Visalus co-founders to teach us how to give back value every day and I am proud to be a part of this group as I continue to work to provide for my family, both financially and spiritually.

LIFE. HEALTH. PROSPERITY. It is my firm belief that my Father and my God has led me to be exactly where I am. God has a plan for my life. He has a plan for your life. Trust Him. After all, we call Him, The Way.

For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

Challenge Accepted! My name is Julie Ashley and I live in Sterlington, Louisiana and I have been challenged by Elizabeth Sharplin to lose my first ten pounds on the Project 10 Challenge. Now I am challenging you!”

* Disclaimer: Visalus will give me special deals if you become a customer using my links. PLEASE Click here to use MY LINKS and become a Customer. Pretty Please. {smiley face}

We Believe…

In one God, who exists in three Persons—the Father, Son and Holy Spirit. He is loving, holy and just.
That the Bible is God’s Word. It is inspired and accurate. It is our perfect guide in all matters of life.
That sin has separated us all from God, and that only through Jesus Christ can we be reconciled to God.
That Jesus Christ is both God and Man. He was conceived by the Holy Spirit and born of the virgin Mary. He led a sinless life, took all our sins upon Himself, died and rose again. Today, He is seated at the right hand of the Father as our High Priest and Mediator.
That salvation is the gift of God to man. This gift is effected by grace through faith in Jesus Christ and it results in works pleasing to God.
That water baptism is a symbol of the cleansing power of God and a testimony of our faith in the Lord Jesus Christ.
That the Holy Spirit is our Comforter. He guides us in all areas of our lives. He also blesses us with spiritual gifts and empowers us to yield the fruit of the Spirit.
That the Holy Communion is a celebration of Jesus’ death and our remembrance of Him.
That God wants to transform, heal and provide for us, so that we can live blessed and victorious lives that will impact and help others.
That we are called to preach the gospel to all nations.
That our Lord Jesus Christ is coming back again just as He promised.

This entry was posted on July 5, 2014, in Inform.

June 23, 2014

Prayed for California to receive Rain.
Prayed for Holly and Jeff, moving to Sterlington, to find the right home and favor and easy move.

This entry was posted on June 23, 2014, in Pray.

Discovering the Vi-Life

Stuck in a Rut

Stuck in a Rut

My weight appeared to be stuck at 155 pounds. Mama, on the other hand, appeared to be shrinking. Her friends, Ken and Ginny were using a weight loss program to get healthy and improve their lives: Visalus.

My sister, Shannon, had joined them and now Mom had decided to try the Visalus challenge to break a plateau she’d been struggling with for years. Shannon came by to record Mom’s Visalus Challenge 10 video while I was there getting ready for work. (Mama and I pray to meet goals at work and also for co-workers and family members.) Now I was really interested.

Mom let me taste one of her Visalus shakes. The Visalus shake mix smells delicious. It even says on the package, the shake mix that tastes like cake mix. With Mom’s coconut milk, Visalus tastes really, really sweet. I thought it was sugary. Visalus shake mix has NO after taste so I guess that’s what fooled me. There is absolutely no aftertaste unless you count Mama’s tropical milk starter.

Mom drinks her Visalus with coconut milk due to her gluten allergies and esophageal yeast. I always drink regular milk. No problem. Mom says. You can mix Visalus with milk. I guess you mean NON fat, huh? I said. Well. You lose weight faster if you use non fat. So I bring a jug of non fat milk back to her house.

We also talk about using it with coffee and chocolate flavorings. Mom let me use her Ninja to mix my Visalus shake with non fat milk and a spoon of cocoa powder. It was delicious. I think that I will get some bananas to add and drink another shake on the way home. Replace two meals a day, Mom said, plus a regular healthy meal and healthy snacking.

Chocolate Banana Smoothie

Chocolate Banana Smoothie

First thing that I really noticed during my work day was that I was not hungry. I have been trying to eat oatmeal every day for lunch because I had heard it would reduce sugar cravings and hunger pangs but it just wasn’t doing the job. I wasn’t hungry at work at all so no more sneaking sugary sodas or snacks. And I wasn’t hungry when I got home either. Wow. I like that a lot.

Mom and I mixed the Visalus shake using cocoa powder, a banana, and non fat milk. It’s going to be easy to enjoy my drinks each day. The most exciting thing about it is that it is not exciting. No major lifestyle changes suddenly. Right now, I am not hungry and I am not hunting a sweet snack to ease a craving. That’s a great start.

Later, I will share how The Three Pillars fit right in here at

Challenge Accepted! My name is Julie Ashley and I live in Sterlington, Louisiana and I have been challenged by Elizabeth Sharplin to lose my first ten pounds on the Project 10 Challenge. Now I am challenging you!”

* Disclaimer: Visalus will give me special deals if you become a customer using my links. PLEASE Click here to use MY LINKS and become a Customer. Pretty Please. {smiley face}